You know that feeling when you realize you’re not perfect?
And then you realize you’re more than not perfect, you’re completely useless?
And then you start to question what you’re doing, who you’re with, and why you’re doing it?
The trick isn’t not having it happen.
The trick is bouncing back.
This is one of those “simple but not easy” kind of things.
How to get through it:
Have an anchor or two.
It helps if you have a list of things you believe in or core values. This will help you focus on what you know to be true about yourself in a time where uncertainty fogs your vision.
Have a mentor.
If you have 3 people in your life who you can talk to for a half-hour a month about what you’re afraid of and how to develop more strength, you’ve won the lottery.
Have some forgiveness.
You’re where you are. Seriously. Accept it. That doesn’t mean you’re not going where you want to go. It just means a little forgiveness will help you focus on bouncing back instead of wasting energy beating yourself up.
These are just three things that have worked for me.
I like to say “a lot of advice is people saying: ‘here are the numbers I used to win the lottery,'” so these might not work the same way for you.
Let me know what you think.
2 Minute Action
- Think of one person who you admire. Call them and ask if they will be your advisor and talk with you once a month.
- Write down a few core values. They won’t all be perfect or right, but you can re-evaluate every couple of months and evolve over time.
- Look at where you are and consider what it would take to accept your failures. I bet you it only takes 2 minutes to do this for the first time.