1 Game Changing Rule Before You Take Advice
I think we can agree that most people like to talk.Then there’s a smaller group of people who like to take their experiences and pay them forward to novices in the field so they may advance further and faster.The 1 game changing rule we each have to remember about advice is that it’s almost always going to be well intentioned but slightly wrong.Not right, not wrong—just slightly wrong.Regardless of whether this advisor wants to adequately inform you or just sound impressive, their entire worldview, shaped over a lifetime is the lens through which their advice comes.
Consider the context before you absorb the content.
And be wary: so much of advice is just “here are the 8 numbers I used to win the lottery.”Unless you are identical in DNA and in worldview, you’re going to hear and see things slightly differently.You have no choice but to follow your gut.
2 Minute Action:
When receiving advice, ask yourself: does the person giving me advice have the kind of lifestyle, moral compass, and skill set I would like to have?Also, if your advisor does most of the talking, they aren’t getting enough time to really understand your problem and provide a solution.Kinda strange to write this post advising on how to receive advice.Feedback and criticisms welcome.What’s some really good or bad advice you’ve gotten?
The Trick To Hitting A Moving Target
The pressure is on when you're trying to hit a moving target.There are always people around to criticize you, or to give you free advice on how to do it.Nothing is ever quite right when you're taking aim, either.You're too old.You're too young.Your idea is too big.Your idea is too small.Your life is too comfortable.Your life isn't uncomfortable enough.The target is always moving.This ebb and flow is a thought pattern that flows through all of us and it can dangerously warp reality if we let it.The good news is that if we realize we're stuck in our own heads, we can start to see clearly again.If we realize that these are excuses and not truths, we can begin to realize the target was in our sights the whole time.RE: The trick to hitting a moving target is realizing that we're the ones moving it.You have more control than you think.
2 Minute Action
What's a criticism you have of yourself? How has it held you back?What might happen if you didn't believe it? What might happen if you had a magic wand and that criticism disappeared forever?What might you be free enough to do, then?What if you gave yourself permission to ignore the voice and do it anyway?