How To Bounce Back From Failure Consistently
You know the feeling.You let yourself down.Or maybe you let someone else down.
It can be a weird combination of feelings including but not limited to:
- Guilt
- Shame
- Embarrassment
- Sadness
The problem with this isn’t messing up.
The problem isn’t that you feel this way, either.
You don’t get to choose how you feel.
The problem is what happens afterward.Do you beat yourself up?Do you ruminate?Do you avoid the future?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:
There is a 0% Return-on-Investment for ruminating.Do what you need to do to bounce back.Go for a walk. Go to the gym. Go scream into a pillow.That part varies from person to person.What we’re doing now is focusing on speed to recovery.How fast can you bounce back?
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Take a second to reflect on what has been a successful resilience strategy for you.One that has been very effective for me is reframing my current situation with gratitude.It took me 30 years to learn this, but now I’ve got it.I feel more bullet-proof than ever.(Example: no matter how bad it is, I’m not getting shot at, I have my conscious brain, I have a bed to sleep in, I have food, etc.)If you’re serious about self-improvement you will figure out what makes you more resilient and use that when facing adversity.You can leverage this when life gets hard!All the information you need is already in your head, all you need to do now is DO something with it.
The 2 Biggest Killers of Productivity That No One Is Talking About
I should have done more.I should be much further along by now.If I wasn’t so _______, I’d be where I want to be.“Should” is probably the worst thing you can say to yourself, but we do it all the time.Its not helpful, it only makes us feel bad.This is called “shoulding all over yourself.”It comes from the two biggest killers of motivation and productivity that we know:Guilt and Obligation.We feel guilty for taking a break, or for taking time off. We shouldn’t need this extra timeWe feel obligated to stay late, to do work that doesn’t matter, or to commit to a vision of success that is unrealistic. We really should be eating better and working out moreIf obligation and guilt were effective tools, we’d all be billionaires with 6-pack abs.When you start “shoulding” just pull the e-brake
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What’s something you’re going to do for YOU today?What’s something you’re NOT going to do?Its up to you to decide whether or not to beat yourself up or ruminate with guilt. It’s up to you to define a reasonable picture of what success looks like.Setting up these rules and visions and being fair to ourselves can go a long way if practiced regularly.Whats something that might replace “should” for you? Reply/comment and let me know what’s working for you!