When Am I Enough?

The trouble with this is that “enough” usually has no real, tangible, measurable definition.It’s not a checkbox.Often, it’s because of the n+1 dilemma.In this example, n is undefined and even if you get vaguely close to it, there’s always the “+1,” which is the same as saying “what could/should/would have been.”It’s a formula for eternal failure. If there’s always a +1 attached to the target, you’ll never get thereIf you don’t know what n means, you’ll have a hard time recognizing if you’ve hit the mark.Next time you catch yourself dreaming about the project, lifestyle, or relationships you want, take an extra minute to really define what that means.What would your day look like?What might you have to give up to make this happen?

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What’s a goal you have?Ex: Be a billionaire with 6-pack abs.What would you have to do to get there?Is there a reasonable path? If not, who can you talk to that’s the closest to that vision?Take 2 minutes to define what the heck “enough” means and call one person who you think is close to that definition. Ask about their philosophy and beliefs. THEN ask about method.

The 2 Biggest Killers of Productivity That No One Is Talking About

I should have done more.I should be much further along by now.If I wasn’t so _______, I’d be where I want to be.“Should” is probably the worst thing you can say to yourself, but we do it all the time.Its not helpful, it only makes us feel bad.This is called “shoulding all over yourself.”It comes from the two biggest killers of motivation and productivity that we know:Guilt and Obligation.We feel guilty for taking a break, or for taking time off. We shouldn’t need this extra timeWe feel obligated to stay late, to do work that doesn’t matter, or to commit to a vision of success that is unrealistic. We really should be eating better and working out moreIf obligation and guilt were effective tools, we’d all be billionaires with 6-pack abs.When you start “shoulding” just pull the e-brake

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What’s something you’re going to do for YOU today?What’s something you’re NOT going to do?Its up to you to decide whether or not to beat yourself up or ruminate with guilt. It’s up to you to define a reasonable picture of what success looks like.Setting up these rules and visions and being fair to ourselves can go a long way if practiced regularly.Whats something that might replace “should” for you? Reply/comment and let me know what’s working for you!